I know that middle school can be a total beating. I remember ever so clearly, and I still have very vivid scars from my OWN middle school experience. I wish we could skip right over these years and get to the fun part (aka college), but the hard years are the ones that make you into a better person, I know for a fact, so we have to grit our teeth and endure them.
But I want you to know how wonderful you are, and that I’m really proud of how you’ve always been sweet to people, always included people who didn’t have anyone to sit with in the cafeteria, always thought about the feelings of others. THOSE are the kinds of behaviors that make me proud. YOU are a valuable treasure, you’ve always been a GOOD FRIEND to people, ALWAYS, and you deserve the best of everything in life, INCLUDING REALLY GOOD FRIENDS who will love you and be there for you and make you feel GOOD to be around them.
And REALLY GOOD FRIENDS treat each other like they want to be treated.
And REALLY GOOD FRIENDS save you a seat in the cafeteria.
And REALLY GOOD FRIENDS include you, and don’t exclude you.
And REALLY GOOD FRIENDS aren’t jealous when a boy has a crush on you.
REALLY GOOD FRIENDS are happy when good things happen for you.
REALLY GOOD FRIENDS would NEVER say words that are carefully chosen to HURT you; really good friends make you feel BETTER when they’re around. Bullies hide behind “just kidding” a lot, but if everyone isn’t laughing, it’s not funny.
You should NEVER feel BAD after being around someone who you call ‘friend,’ and if someone constantly makes you feel inferior, KICK THEM TO THE CURB. Really good friends NEVER, EVER make you feel inferior.
And oh, my sweet, precious daughter, THIS is what you deserve. I don’t expect EVERYONE to treat you like the priceless treasure that you are, but at the very minimum, if someone can’t be a good friend to you, it’s time to say NEXT and move on.
THIS is what I want you to know: IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU; it’s about how they see themselves, and the REALLY insecure ones will thrive on making you feel bad so they can feel good about themselves. They’ll be quick to let you know where they went when you weren’t invited. They’ll feel smug about excluding some so that THEY can feel ‘in.’ They’ll flaunt their ‘stuff’ to make you feel bad about your own.
(Come to think of it, I know a few grown women who act like seventh graders…)
You should never, ever let the insecure people steal ONE MINUTE of your joy. You’re sweet, kind, smart, pretty, and wonderful, and God has huge plans for you. Keep making every effort to be one of the good ones, and know that I’m incredibly proud of you.
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