Another one of those terms I never knew until I lived it.
I mean, there is no conversation with a narcissist in the traditional sense of the word, in which we … discuss.
Like, for example, I would just love to say, I don’t think our daughter’s school is working out. I think we need to consider a different school.
And then he would respond like a mature adult and we … discuss.
What would that be like, I wonder?
How is usually works is that I message him (ONLY when absolutely necessary…)
And he responds with mocking, ridiculing, shaming, and sarcasm, and then twists the “conversation” around to a completely different topic and nothing is ever resolved.
So when people say, YOU TWO JUST NEED TO COPARENT, I wanna throat punch them.
Take, for example, my latest attempt to “converse” with the narcissist.
Me: please let me know if this summer schedule works for you.
Me, three days later: Three days later and no response so I’m requesting again.
And THEN he responds with an unrelated question about a complete different topic.
So I could say, please answer my question.
But then he’d respond with, you please answer my question.
I’ve been around this block soooooo many times that it’s predictable.
It would end with him mocking and shaming, along the lines of: I don’t know why you can’t just answer the question. Why are you so difficult to communicate with?
And my original question, about the summer schedule, NEVER GETS ANSWERED.
It’s never going to get answered.