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To Catch a Stalker: The Final Chapter.

Melissa Beene Ford/ Uncategorized

Let me just start out by saying that I NEVER wanted this blog to be a drama-filled soap opera. And for that matter, I never wanted my life to be a soap opera.

I hate soap operas.

Even WORSE than soap operas, I hate reality TV. I hate kissing shows and fake shows about fake love and ridiculous drama and fake, fake, fake.

I hate The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, and Lifetime Movies for Women and ALL that garbage. There may be something wrong with me, but I’d rather watch Guy Fieri on Food Network (LOVE) or some sexy manly carpenter build something on HGTV, or heck, I’d even rather watch The Disney Channel than all that drama.

My apologies to those of you whom I’ve offended by disrespecting The Bachelor.

But I’ve started something, and I intend to finish it. And when I say ‘I’ve started something,’ what I really mean is that this dadgum LIfetime Reality Soap Opera for Women was inflicted upon me by no choice of my own.

For those of you just tuning in, I found myself being harassed by a certain someone who took it upon themselves to leave nasty little comments on my blog. Dozens upon dozens of them. Oh, I was fairly certain I knew who it was, mind you, given the past history of hateful words texted to me at various hours in the middle of the night.

And I really don’t want to dwell in the nastiness, but for one final moment, for purposes of closure, I’m going to address this, and then forever delete her nasty hateful words from my life forever, and return to my previously scheduled programming of children, bacon, and Jesus.

Well, most of the time. 😉

So this person was ‘anonymously’ leaving hateful comments, mostly about how fat and crazy I am (and no, it wasn’t my ex-husband, though he and Satan were probably sitting in the stands cheering her on) the worst of which was this one (and I’m purposely leaving it little because its SO VILE that I don’t want it to scorch your eyes with its nastiness, so click on it to make it bigger if you really want to read it):
And I’m just gonna tell you straight up, that really hurt.
 
I cried for two days over that one. Yes. It was like that. So congratulations, stalker, you did what you set out to do. Score one for the enemy. I almost deleted my entire blog over it, it so took the wind out of my sails.
 
I knew, for my own sanity, that I had to PROVE who did this. Because bullies are out there, by gosh, and I should not have to delete my whole blog, which is my FAVORITE HOBBY, because of it.
  
Seeing as how I had a STRONG HUNCH who it was, my first step was to find the IP address of this person’s computer. Since it was someone I know, it was easy enough: I located an email from her.
 
To find the IP address from an email, look at your email inbox, and right-click on the email you want to identify. A box will pop up; scroll down to View Full Header. Click that. A box of jibberish will pop up; the IP address is in there. But the trouble is, its hard to spot, so (right click) Select All that nonsense, and (right click) Copy, then Go Here, scroll down to the box at the bottom of the page, and (right click) Paste in the box. It will tell you the IP address. Write that number down.

This is the section of the email from my stalker where I found her IP address:

And yes, I blacked out all the identifying info. I know who she is, my friends know who she is, and most importantly, SHE and GOD know who she is, and that’s alls who needs to know. But if you’ll notice, her IP address starts with 66, which just so happen to be the first two digits in Satan’s IP address, too! Small world.

My next step was to install Sitemeter on my blog. And you’ll want to get the subscription one, and not the free one, because (and I could be mistaken on this), the subscription one will tell you more details about who is visiting and when.

NOW, if you’re Pioneer Woman, stop now, because if you have that kinda blog where 172,000 people are visiting every minute, this is not likely to work. But for the rest of you folks with blogs (like mine) that only your momma plus one other person might visit on any given day, this is for you.
Sitemeter will tell you exactly who is on your blog by location and IP address and time in and time out and WHAT ALL THEY CLICKED ON while they were there. INCLUDING the comments they clicked out on. And since comments are timed down to the minute, you can look at your details list, see who clicked out on the comments at 6:51 on July 15th, and voila… you have your hateful commenter.
 
In the interest of full disclosure, this is a page from today, when IP# 666.something chose to pay me a 44 minute and 4 second visit (not her longest, by ANY means), and NOT actually July 15th at 6:51pm, though I have tracked back the last few hateful comments to their exact visit on sitemeter, and whattayaknow, they all point back to my, uh… friend.
 
OH, and this page is cropped to make it fit easier, so the info about everything they clicked on isn’t shown in this picture.
 
And I have them all (ALL of her hours upon hours of visits to my blog including FOUR HOURS YESTERDAY ALONE) printed out and stored in my Evidence Folder along with pictures of her histrionic text messages and whatnot.
 
ON account of if I end up on 48 Hours Mystery, the ex-husband is always the most logical suspect, and it would be a shame if he had to take the blame and go to prison and my poor little children had to grow up at Azleway. No offense, Julie.
 
So there you have it. Mystery solved, case closed, the Bunny Boiler but a distant memory from my past.
 
Until someone takes a stiletto to the forehead…  

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  1. Betsy says

    July 29, 2011 at 3:22 am

    Wow. Awesome! I really hope that she can move on and leave you alone!!

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  2. Leslie says

    July 29, 2011 at 3:56 am

    Great info, thanks!! I hope your stalker will move ON! Good for you for exposing darkness!

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  3. Em says

    July 29, 2011 at 4:22 am

    Good work. You're nicer than me, but good work.

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  4. CJ says

    July 29, 2011 at 4:39 am

    Well said Em. She is nicer than I as well. ;-)<br /><br />You are one smart chick, M. 🙂 Love ya.

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  5. Serena says

    July 29, 2011 at 5:58 am

    Yuck. What a horrible thing to have to deal with. So glad that you were able to find a way to block her from your blog. <br />I have to say, by far the best line in this whole post is <br />&quot;But if you&#39;ll notice, her IP address starts with 66, which just so happen to be the first two digits in Satan&#39;s IP address, too! Small world.&quot; ! You are hilarious! <br />I hope blocking her

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  6. Tamara says

    July 29, 2011 at 11:49 am

    Thanks, Melissa, for the info. Wish I&#39;d had this years ago! Stay safe and be wrapped in peace today.

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  7. Jenn says

    July 29, 2011 at 12:37 pm

    Team B Scene! Just sayin&#39;.;)

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  8. Melissa from the Blue House says

    July 29, 2011 at 12:57 pm

    Thank you all. 🙂 She has caused me TONS of drama, that&#39;s for sure, and I could have done the same for HER, especially seeing as how she&#39;s using her work computer to do all this harassment…. but really, all I want her to do is to leave me alone. Hopefully now she will.

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  9. Karen says

    July 29, 2011 at 1:34 pm

    I&#39;m glad you didn&#39;t delete your blog-I so enjoy your sense of humor and always enjoy reading your posts.<br /><br />Honestly, your line &quot;But if you&#39;ll notice, her IP address starts with 66, which just so happen to be the first two digits in Satan&#39;s IP address, too! Small world.&quot; is too hilarious for words. I&#39;m so glad you have been able to maintain your sense of

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  10. Lisa says

    July 29, 2011 at 1:38 pm

    What a sad little life she must have to spend hours and hours stalking yours! She really must be extremely jealous of you. So, therefore, you should be flattered.

    Reply
  11. Marlager says

    July 29, 2011 at 2:45 pm

    YOU ROCK!!!

    Reply
  12. Jenn says

    July 30, 2011 at 3:07 am

    Wow! That&#39;s a lot of drama!!! I am very glad you are still blogging! You have such a great ability to write…yours is one of my favorite blogs to read!!! Here&#39;s praying your drama is OVER!!!

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  13. Anonymous says

    July 30, 2011 at 4:07 am

    Thank you so much for this!! I am sending the link to my cousin and praying this will help her get rid of her stalker. Unfortunately, hers shows up in her real life as well but at least she can deny her this form of access. I now have to remember to x out of blogs before I get distracted and wander off so it doesn&#39;t look like I&#39;ve been on one for hours. Ooops.

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  14. Melissa from the Blue House says

    July 30, 2011 at 6:47 pm

    When I said that THIS was the final chapter, I meant it.<br /><br />I will no longer be publishing comments from Crazy or any of her friends. So if you have something to say that makes me believe she sent you, I won&#39;t be publishing your comment.<br /><br />Go write your own blog.

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  15. christy says

    July 31, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    And that, ladies….is how real women &quot;take the bull by the horns&quot;. Amen.

    Reply
  16. Anonymous says

    July 31, 2011 at 11:07 pm

    Love you girl! Sorry you&#39;ve had to deal with so much in the past few years. I&#39;m glad she will be forced to leave you alone now.<br />Melissa H.

    Reply
  17. rikki says

    August 6, 2011 at 11:04 pm

    *sigh* what a suck-fest that you have to deal with this crazy lady. Love you and hope things get much better for you! I am cheering that you caught her…that was awesome!!! hahaha!!

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  18. JennyJenJen says

    August 13, 2011 at 12:55 pm

    giiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl i am SO glad i found you. and i never would have if all those silly people wouldn&#39;t have had a fit over don miller&#39;s GREAT posts! (i digress…)<br /><br />i feel your pain. it is my understanding that any blogger who has more than 2 followers, will at some point pick up a nasty stalker like you did. kind of like picking up a nasty parasite on vacation to cabo that

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